Friday, 13 October 2017

How do you communicate ?

Have you ever tried to say something with a good intention but either you were misunderstood or the way you said it was just wrong and it led to a whole different result that the expected one?

I bet you have :) 

Recently I've been reading, talking and overthinking a lot about of a power of words.
Probably because I read a really interesting and thought-provoking book called Powiedz to dobrym sÅ‚owem that maybe one day will be summarised in here. Not today though :) 

There are so many unnecessary conflicts, fights, anger behind the lack of knowledge how we could communicate in the way that not only we would achieve our goal but also our interlocutor would feel important in the conversation.

Just think about it, how much time do we spend in our life on learning this that we might never use in our life. From the outset, I knew that Physics will never be a part of my life, I mean it obviously is but I won't be the one who anyhow will be studying it. I'm not saying we should have a basic knowledge, but we should we learn difficult formulas that we don't ever understand the meaning.

About 80% of our life we are surrounded by people, we need to communicate with our parents, children, friends, colleagues, boss, teachers and I could go on like this for a long time... 

Let me ask you something have you ever been taught on how to speak effectively? If yes, then you're that lucky one and congratulations to you if you could put anything of what you've learned in practice. 

If you haven't then, unfortunately, you're in the majority. 

I strongly believe that communication is a key to a good relationship and relations, therefore we shall all try to improve our skills in order to make our lives easier :) 

To be continued ...

Love,

Alex


 



            

  

Sunday, 8 October 2017

Back to school

Over past couple years that Back to school expression has gained much attention, hasn't it ?. There are back to school outfits, and lookbooks that we can follow on youtube channels, blogs or Instagram photos. on how to dress for that special moment. Nowadays even grocery shops in their ads are using that phrase in order to convince parents that their children need extra food for a lunch as if they haven't already known that, right?
Anyways, that was just a little digression of mine, what I wanted to talk to you about was that going back to a daily routine after holidays is never an easy task.
It is even more painful when that amazing period of not studying or worrying or doing anything that in your subconsciousness appears as negative lasted for entire 3 MONTHS!
Luckily, there's a good news too! End of something pleasant and chirpy can actually be a beginning of a new adventure. I know I might sound way too optimistic, let's face the facts: autumn has come, uni has started, it is raining almost every day plus people are more grumpy and even ruder.
Nevertheless, if only we could see the world in a slightly different perspective. Imagine that this gloomy weather is also an amazing opportunity to take out of the closet your favourite, cosy, oversized sweaters  :) It is also a time when you can light all those amazingly smelling candles that give that one of a kind beautiful lighting, there's no better opportunity than rainy weather to watch your favoured movie or read an interesting book. On the other hand, if you are an active person, trust me the unique smell of a fresh rain is sometimes worth getting a bit wet :) Plus who doesn't like to step in the puddles with your wellies on?
I've heard ones there's no bad weather there are only people with bad attitude :) 

So, remember autumn/uni/work/ can be as fascinating as holidays it all depends on how badly you want it and what are you willing to do in order to get it :)

Just picture that: Hot chocolate, blanket, colourful leaves, candles   ... and it all gets better :)

Goodnight everybody

Love,

Alex

  

Saturday, 10 June 2017

Big little lies

Hello there x

I'm not sure if I've told you that before but I'm a huge soap opera lover. It started when I was little, and I know you'll probably laugh at me, but I did watch telenovelas. In fact, it was the first moment where I felt that Spanish was such a lovely language and that I'd love to learn it. I was around 10 and here I am studying Spanish Philology :)

However, today I wanted to recommend you an American miniseries that captivated me from the very first scene.

Based on the novel called Big Little Lies (what a surprise, right?) written by Liane Moriarty was taken to a big screen thanks to David E. Kelly, the producer.

It consists seven, absolutely addictive episodes, which tell us a story of four mother and their families raising their children in a small, however very money-based, if I can even say that, community.

The whole plot has to do with a murder that is unsolved, and until the end obviously, we don't know who's the murderer and who's the victim. Episode by episode we discover the secrets from the past of every mum and also we follow their present life. In each episode, we connect the dots, which keeps you interested in every single minute of it.

The intrigue, the mystery and stories of four completely different women is the reason why I hold on to my computer and had sleepless nights because I just couldn't stop.  

If you're not convinced yet let me just tell you that the main characters are cast by
Reese Witherspoon, Nicole Kidman and  Shailene Woodley. I guess that no introduction is needed :)

If you have a spear moment (about an hour) you should definitely watch it, If you don't you should watch it regardless :)
Although I must tell you it is addictive! :)

Saturday, 3 June 2017

It's weekend, you know how much I love weekends. Well, I don't think there's anyone out there who doesn't like it. Unless you are that unfortunate person who has to work on the weekends. I've been there I've done that, so trust me I know what you feel, especially now when the sun is out and people are doing barbecues.

I believe that it should be banned to work on the weekend but then who would attend us if we end up in the hospital or who would attend all those shopaholics?

Anyways what I wanted to write about is the time.

Many people complain about a hectic day of living. It is obvious that we would want to have more time for leisure and pleasure.
Howeve, I believe it is more about how well we can organise out spear hours rather then how much do we actually have.
All of us, the ones who work, the ones who study, the rich and the poor we all have 24 hours a day.

Just think about how much time do you waist on watching the tv or scrolling Instagram photos or Twitter, huh?
Even the traffic, maybe sometimes under if taking a bus or car to get to work it would be easier or maybe even faster and for sure healthier to cycle wherever it is that you have to go.

There's so many thing that you can be more productive at, little habit that you can change in order to have more time for yourself :)

I'm planning on doing that do thing that I love while doing those less pleasant :)
Like dancing while washing up the dishes for example. Or studying with your best friend on the terrace with a coffee :)

Consider it!

Love

Alex 

Sunday, 28 May 2017

DIY

Have you ever heard of DIY?
Do you know what that shortcut stands for?

In order to be as specific as you can be, let me give you a proper definition that is taken from Cambridge Dictionary website:

DIY: abbreviation for do-it-yourself: the activity of decorating or repairing your home, or making things for your home yourself, rather than paying someone else to do it for you:

So for me, it's an amazing way of making things by yourself. The internet is full of ideas starting from small flowers decorations up to making your own lightbulb. There's no doubt that some of them might turn out to be such a waste of time, other on the other hand could be a new way of developing your skills.
Certainly, there are things that it is just easier to go and buy at shops, but why would you go and spend money on something that you can make by yourself?

Let me give you an example: Christmas cards, normally they cost you about 2 pounds, however, the fancier they get the more money you'll have to spend. Why don't you make your own card? Trust me not only you will have fun, but also the person that one day receives that kind of gift will appreciate way more as the effort that you put in making it will be seen at first sight :) Obviously some of the DIY ideas; such as making your own speaker, not to mention all those precious decorations,  are only reserved for those people who are either mechanically or manually talented. However, nowadays you can learn almost anything, as you have guides that show you step by step what to do. So, why not give it a shot?

Monday, 22 May 2017

There's no place like home ...

They say that there's no place like home, right?

I often get that feeling of anger or maybe sadness after a nice trip which I to would call a post trip syndrome.
I could describe it as the first state of a slight depression that we might suffer after being abroad. Well, it doesn't necessarily have to be abroad but somewhere where we felt like in heaven.

So, I've just come back from one of those places that made me feel like that and I realised that, each time, after being somewhere else I catch myself on being sad, let alone depressed.

Why does that happen? Is it because you had such a great time wherever you were or maybe because it was just a clear out for your mind? Does it have to do with the place you chose to travel to or maybe with the company you were surrounded by?

What if there's always that feeling inside of you that you don't belong to any of those places, what if you can't really stand living in one city for a long period of time?

I guess that what if  could go on forever. Nevertheless, I know that wherever I go I leave there a little piece of my heart, and anytime I can easily recall that little box, that we all have inside of us, that is full of memories, and just make myself feel better.

And even though people say you shouldn't hold on to memories I believe that this is the one thing that can never be taken away from us, which makes it very special and unique.

As always I end up talking about something else then I wanted to write about first.

I hope that at least in parts you were able to understand what I was trying to tell you :)

Have a good night x
 


Friday, 12 May 2017

Knowledge

I remember someone told me once the less you know the better. 

I was on the train, had so much time to think, in fact, it was more overthinking rather than thinking. Anyways, the sentence that I mention above crossed my mind and I thought  I wish sometimes I didn't know as much as I do. Sounds really mysterious, doesn't it? Well, I'm not really trying to discover anything new by saying that, I just know that many times to know is leading to misery. Why is that?

Do you recall my previous blog where I said that travelling is not as amazing as everyone is telling us? Same happens with knowledge, at least it does happen to me every now and then.

I do like History, and I believe that it is important to know where you're coming from, what are your roots, who were your ancestors and what did they believe in. However, I get this shiver when I'm reading next book about Holocaust or Spanish Civil War or any other book that reminds us of the cruelty that a human being was and yet is able to commit. That kind of books make me question my life my beliefs, which is good, nevertheless, they make me feel sad. I realise it sounds trivial, but by knowing more and more I loose something that should never be taken away from us, hope.
Hope that we are able to create a better life and world for ourselves.
It probably appears highly pessimistic, but every day we are surrounded by negativity.
Our friends, family, the news they all are mostly transmitting bad information, not the good one.
Do I want that for myself? I know it is inevitable, and certainly, it is up to me whether I let that affect me or nor, but sometimes I just feel like if only I lived in a lost house somewhere in the woods.
I would probably grow my own vegetables, I would probably go for long walks, I would enjoy every single minute, you know why? Because I simply wouldn't know that there is something else out there.
I wouldn't compare that the river here is uglier than the river in Spain. That we have less sunny days than Italy does, that my friend earns more money even though she doesn't even have a degree.
What is more, I wouldn't know what cruelty means because I wouldn't have anyone to show or teach me what it is.  However, I also would what love is and within ten nasty people I would never get to know 1 person who is worth fighting for.

Is it better not to know? I have no clue, but the idea of leaving everything behind even if it was only for 2/3 days does sound tempting!
No phone, no facebook, no friends, no family, no books just you and nature.
Well, we would probably go nuts after couple of days, but it is worth giving a try :)

Good night x