The three sieve story

Hello there!

It's a rainy Sunday afternoon, as I'm obviously not out I've decided to make a good use of the little extra free time and write something down :)

Last time I left you without the story so I hope that your curiosity has increased since then.

So let's cut to the chase. I've read that story in one book called Powiedz to dobrym słowem by Iwona Majewska-Opiełka and I decided to share it with you.

It was a nice sunny day, the old Socrates was walking through the park, when suddenly out of nowhere one man run into him shouting  "Socrates there's something you need to know, there's a friend of yours who.."

Hey, wait a seconf - Socrates said. You are about to tell me something, right? Just let me ask you a question did you consider the thing that you want to tell me, and did you put it through the three sieves?"

- The three sieves? The man asked, what are you talking about?

- Ok, then, let me explain - said Socrates.The first sieve is the sieve of truth. Did you check whether what you wanted to tell me is true? Socrates asked.

- Well, actually no, I didn't I just heard it somewhere - the man answered.

- Ah, well then now you should consider the second sieve, the second one is called the sieve of good, after a second - Socrates asked. Do you think that what you want to tell me is good?

-Ehm no not at all, on the contrary, it's a bad news - the man a little bit annoyed already answered. 

With a concerned face the wise Socrates said:
 - Let's use the third sieve, shall we?
Will it be useful to me, what you are about to tell me, is is it necessary?

- Well, not really - the man said.

- Ok then, I think we already know whether you should tell me what you were going to tell me or not -  said with a smile Socrates
If something, isn't true or let alone is made up, it isn't good or necessary, just forget about it. It certainly won't do any good but it might harm somebody, so what's the point?

Hope you'll have a good afternoon!

Love,
Alex

 

How do you communicate ?

Have you ever tried to say something with a good intention but either you were misunderstood or the way you said it was just wrong and it led to a whole different result that the expected one?

I bet you have :) 

Recently I've been reading, talking and overthinking a lot about of a power of words.
Probably because I read a really interesting and thought-provoking book called Powiedz to dobrym słowem that maybe one day will be summarised in here. Not today though :) 

There are so many unnecessary conflicts, fights, anger behind the lack of knowledge how we could communicate in the way that not only we would achieve our goal but also our interlocutor would feel important in the conversation.

Just think about it, how much time do we spend in our life on learning this that we might never use in our life. From the outset, I knew that Physics will never be a part of my life, I mean it obviously is but I won't be the one who anyhow will be studying it. I'm not saying we should have a basic knowledge, but we should we learn difficult formulas that we don't ever understand the meaning.

About 80% of our life we are surrounded by people, we need to communicate with our parents, children, friends, colleagues, boss, teachers and I could go on like this for a long time... 

Let me ask you something have you ever been taught on how to speak effectively? If yes, then you're that lucky one and congratulations to you if you could put anything of what you've learned in practice. 

If you haven't then, unfortunately, you're in the majority. 

I strongly believe that communication is a key to a good relationship and relations, therefore we shall all try to improve our skills in order to make our lives easier :) 

To be continued ...

Love,

Alex


 

            

  

Back to school

Over past couple years that Back to school expression has gained much attention, hasn't it ?. There are back to school outfits, and lookbooks that we can follow on youtube channels, blogs or Instagram photos. on how to dress for that special moment. Nowadays even grocery shops in their ads are using that phrase in order to convince parents that their children need extra food for a lunch as if they haven't already known that, right?
Anyways, that was just a little digression of mine, what I wanted to talk to you about was that going back to a daily routine after holidays is never an easy task.
It is even more painful when that amazing period of not studying or worrying or doing anything that in your subconsciousness appears as negative lasted for entire 3 MONTHS!
Luckily, there's a good news too! End of something pleasant and chirpy can actually be a beginning of a new adventure. I know I might sound way too optimistic, let's face the facts: autumn has come, uni has started, it is raining almost every day plus people are more grumpy and even ruder.
Nevertheless, if only we could see the world in a slightly different perspective. Imagine that this gloomy weather is also an amazing opportunity to take out of the closet your favourite, cosy, oversized sweaters  :) It is also a time when you can light all those amazingly smelling candles that give that one of a kind beautiful lighting, there's no better opportunity than rainy weather to watch your favoured movie or read an interesting book. On the other hand, if you are an active person, trust me the unique smell of a fresh rain is sometimes worth getting a bit wet :) Plus who doesn't like to step in the puddles with your wellies on?
I've heard ones there's no bad weather there are only people with bad attitude :) 

So, remember autumn/uni/work/ can be as fascinating as holidays it all depends on how badly you want it and what are you willing to do in order to get it :)

Just picture that: Hot chocolate, blanket, colourful leaves, candles   ... and it all gets better :)

Goodnight everybody

Love,

Alex